The Sociopath Next Door

The Sociopath Next Door

The Ruthless Versus the Rest of Us

Book - 2005
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Who is the devil you know?

Is it your lying, cheating ex-husband?
Your sadistic high school gym teacher?
Your boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings?
The colleague who stole your idea and passed it off as her own?

In the pages of The Sociopath Next Door , you will realize that your ex was not just misunderstood. He's a sociopath. And your boss, teacher, and colleague? They may be sociopaths too.

We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in The Sociopath Next Door , Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people--one in twenty-five--has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse. One in twenty-five everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath. They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family. And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt.

How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They're more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others' suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.

The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know--someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for--is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.

It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.

Publisher: New York : Broadway Books, 2005
ISBN: 9780767915816
076791581X
Branch Call Number: 616.8582 STO
Characteristics: xiii, 241 p. ; 25 cm

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This is a very fascinating book! It contains a remarkable examination of sociopathy and its everyday manifestation.

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JHCL
Apr 18, 2016

Interesting topic - worth reading. be warned, this book has long uninteresting passages on spiritual and religious topics (that I just ended up skipping). lots of other good content. a good companion book to the much more readable and enjoyable 'The Psychopath Test - by Jon Ronson'.

sarahfelkar May 01, 2015

If you are a fan of pop-science books, this title on sociopathy will interest you. The author uses great examples that draw away from television stereotypes, and completes a very thorough exploration of sociopathy.

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650Hawk
Aug 24, 2014

Good book on the subject with maybe too much fill in text but I realize this is not the DSM-5. Should be a must read for everyone to help them get through life maybe a bit easier.

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commercesd
Aug 01, 2014

This is the best book I have ever read on the subject. It thoroughly covers just how a sociopath is able to manipulate people in a very subtle way, usually by altering information. I really wish I had read this book early in my life. It would have saved me a lot of illness, pain, heartache and grief.

esther_12031211 Aug 20, 2013

This book is so true. There are too many of these jerks residing in this country on this planet. This book is genius.

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ScorchingSun
Jan 29, 2013

Kinda scary, eh? Ravening aliens lurking among us.This book deals more with the relatively invisible sociopaths embedded in our
community.Interesting facts and insights.Author could have pared down some of her VERY detailed case studies.

snluvsmt Dec 10, 2012

its easy to be paranoid of anyone we believe does not have a conscience to be a sociopath, and a conscience is somewhat a controversial topic anyhow. perhaps, with freuds theory, it isnt the conscience they lack, but the superego, they cannot control their id, and inner impulses, a lack of the development of the ego and superego could be a sociopath.

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DellaV
Aug 28, 2012

This is a good book on outlining sociopathology, but not strong on how to protect yourself from them.

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delfon
Jul 22, 2012

Conscience is a god motivator, but so too is too much forgiveness.
13 rules for dealing with sociopaths is given: accepting that some people are just bad, follow your instinct if in doubt, in any relationship consider the rule of 3's where three lies, three broken promises, three neglected responsibilities and that's it, question character of who like to dominate others, suspect flattery, refine concepts of respect and do not be intimidated by threats by politician types, do not intrigue, avoid suspected sociopaths, question your pitying stance after all respecting others who actually are kind and courageous, do not try to redeem the unredeemable, never agree to help a sociopath hide their transgressions, do not be convinced that humanity is debased or a failure, living well is your best revenge against these types. This is an excellent read, and very telling of the kinds of things happening in Edmonton, Toronto and Aurora Co.

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میکائیل
Apr 15, 2014

"When deciding whom to trust, bear in mind that the combination of consistently bad or egregiously inadequate behavior with frequent plays for your pity is as close to a warning mark on a conscienceless person's forehead as you will ever be given." p.109

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میکائیل
Apr 15, 2014

"...I recommend that you severely challenge your need to be polite in absolutely all situations. For normal adults in our culture, being what we think of as "civilized" is like a reflex, and often we find ourselves being automatically decorous even when someone has enraged us, repeatedly lied to us, or figuratively stabbed us in the back. Sociopaths take huge advantage of this automatic courtesy in exploitive situations. Do not be afraid to be unsmiling and calmly to the point." p.161

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